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I am going to ask
you to something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to
listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your
head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?
Now let's say you are walking down the street with these thoughts.
Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you
what’s on your mind?
The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer number two
can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell
you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of
how you are feeling.
Here's another question. When you enter a party filled with
friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had
happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for
something exciting to happen?
You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of
mind.
Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The
attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of
course, you are a great actor.
And it doesn't end there. Your attitude can also affect people
around you.
The type of
attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or
negative.
Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly
invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive
thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.
Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other
people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative
thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.
A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude
repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a
negative attitude.
We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If
you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or
less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you
choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry
a positive attitude.
You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one,
studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better
health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends.
projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and
problems better than those who have a negative attitude.
A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will
love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and
self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.
A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an
opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold
drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel
the same way.
If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature
healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since,
all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A
study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her
child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.
If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy
thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what
can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you
could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with
friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli,
which in turn promotes positive attitude.
Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative
things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by
focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.
And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to
other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing
people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all
they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you
have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without
even having to say anything.
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