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Have you come
across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him
inside a room of strangers, he'll be friends with almost everyone
in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably
nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.
A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically
because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the
trust and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped
before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything with the
plethora of people behind him. All because he knows he maximizes
his social potential!
See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you
will reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general
overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more
successful person. If you can be one of those people-persons, then
I can't see any reason why you will not succeed. You just have to
know how to start.
1. Be genuine.
Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice
and interested to people. Once they perceive that you are Mr.
Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye
to self-empowerment.
2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.
To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to their problems
and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to
them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to
you. Listen as if every word matters, and it does. Brownie points
when they find out that there is a confidante in you.
3. Laugh out loud.
I do not mean that you force yourself to laugh for every joke
cracked by someone, albeit you do not find it funny at all.This
means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A
person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and
eventually, attracts success.
4. Don't forget yourself.
In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you
might forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over.
Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem
yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to
you and not trample on you.
5. Do random acts of kindness.
You don't have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to
charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most, and this can be
as simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or
helping an elderly cross the street. When we were kindergarten
students, kindness was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now is
the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for
good.
6. Contact your old friends.
Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to
technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old
days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom
you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to
your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all
over.
7. Develop your personality.
Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can't go
through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that
perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy
friend anyway?
8. Be confident.
Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce
yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just
remember: be confident, not arrogant.
9. Practice control.
When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm
and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and
transform your anger into something more productive and passive.
As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions
easily, they will find it hard to come to you.
10. Keep nurturing your relationships.
Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others
is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go
out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will
never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most
are close to you.
In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a
better and more lovable person. It's a win-win situation: the
people know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa. |